In this troubled economy jobs aren’t the only thing that are hard to find.
Many successful single women find themselves facing the challenge of finding a suitable man to date. Single women without children do not have to settle for anything and we must raise our standards. There are some types of men that should be automatically disqualified from seriously dating. Men that are sex offenders, men that are incarcerated, and men that are “Baby Daddies.” Here are 10 Reasons why Single Women who are without children should not date Baby Daddies.
10. Baby Daddies Will Cheat with Baby Mommas and not consider it as Cheating
For some reason Baby Daddies are notorious for continuing to have sex with their Baby Mommas long after their relationship is supposed to be over. The Baby Momma is an easy access source of sex that never goes away for men and they take full advantage by breaking the BM off whenever they see fit. This is not healthy for any dating situation.
9. Baby Daddies have Expenses Leaving you with whats Left (If anything).
Child support payments, kids clothes, formula, kids entertainment, ect all go to the Baby Momma which is expected. We do want men to take care of their kids but after all this money is spent there are very little ends left for 5 star restaurants, trips and dating. Leaving you with whatever money is left meaning instead of Felipe’s, he’s thinking Wingstop. Or in the case that the Baby Daddy is spending BIG money on dating he is more than likely neglecting his child and Baby Mama’s needs.
8. Who wants to Deal with Baby Mama Drama?
Baby Mama’s will cause necessary (or unnecessary) drama. I don’t wish a dead beat dad on anyone and often Baby Mamas cause drama when Daddy is NOT taking care of his responsibilities and is busy spending all his money on the “other woman”. But there are men who do handle their family responsibilities and are still left with a psychotic baby mother who is bitter because she still wants him and he has moved on. I have had a woman key my car for dating her Baby Daddy and this is MILD compared to what some Baby Mamas will do to mark their territory.
7. Baby Daddies have Limited Free Time
A new woman should never want to come between a man spending quality time with his child and you will. Dating a man with a child will cut into time that father could be spending bonding with his child. This is no bueno!
6. You won’t get their undivided Attention EVER
Say a woman does become attached to a man with children and decide to start a family of your own, you will never have that mans undivided attention under any circumstances. He will always have to be shared with the other woman and the other family.
5. Their Kids Become Yours
I have heard of this situation many times before. A female is dating a man who has children, he moves in and so does his kids. You get a ready made family with all the added responsibilities of motherhood without ever giving birth. A female can get so wrapped up in trying to impress her Boo and his kids that she forgets to even have her own.
4. The Baby Mama Competition
Women Dating Men with kids and Baby Mamas have to compete to win the Baby Daddies attention and affection. If a Man has a Successful Baby Mama and they have a strong history and bond then he will always be closer to that woman. You are the “New Meat” that is often interchangeable and so it is difficult to develop a bond with a man when he is constantly reminded of his intimate past with his Baby Mama.
3. Dating a Baby Daddy is just like Dating a Retarded Person
This is an analogy so please don’t take this the wrong way because I love retarded people and if I were with a man who treated me well for years and he later became retarded I would stay with him. However who goes out looking for NEW Retard? That is simply not smart or realistic. Retarded people should stick together. Therefore people with children should date EACH OTHER. They have the same issues and can relate. Why bring someone innocent with out a Baby Daddy into your world of baggage and drama?
2. You can Choose who you Love and especially who you DATE!
I don’t believe in love at first sight (and you shouldn’t either if you are a logical person). The days of falling head over heals in love with a person regardless of their situation are over. You should take everything about a person into consideration before seriously dating them. Women do not have to even get close to falling in love with a man when you learn that he has children you simple leave the getting to know you process at a casual freindship.
1. There Are Too Many Fish in the Sea for Single childless Women to Settle
Contrary to popular belief there are many single, childless men out there waiting for a successful childless woman to date. You do not have to settle for the baggage, stress, competition or guilt that can come along with dating a man with children. Also single women should embrace their loneliness and realize that you can do bad all by yourself. For it is better to be lonely and happy than dating and miserable!